Reaction usually leads to extending victimhood to the point where we lose even more. Some folks, likely the instigators, actually receive some benefit in seeing our misery or worse, don’t even care. Forgiveness is a choice and has absolutely nothing to do with the other person. This may be hard to accept, yet it is critical do to so.
It’s always someone else’s fault. Taking responsibility for our surroundings can be tough going when we’re victimized by another’s actions. Without invalidating the facts about what the other has done, what we are given is the opportunity to respond or react.