While a lot of people won’t be able to see it or admit to it, many are Taking as opposed to Receiving.
It’s an easy trap to fall into.
Being a Taker comes naturally in a world that teaches us we are owed something or deserve it.
Entitlement runs rampant and it’s not only the poor that are guilty of abuse.
Wealthy and middle-class folks defend, justify and maintain Mediocrity and Victim by believing a Story that tells them it’s their right to get what they’re due.
Notice the next time someone Gives you something. Are you Receiving or Taking?
Many people live in the Story of “I’m not enough,” or “I’m not good enough.”
The Maintenance of the underlying Conversation for your Mediocrity must be recognized.
We all have some form of Mediocrity do deal with; you, me, the Pope and the Dalai Lama.
If you’ve learned how to manage, congratulations are in order.
Most folks don’t even realize it’s there. Much of your Story is Maintained by reinforcing past events with current instances that have us reliving Pain.
A good way to notice it is if you practice collecting evidence to be right about how wrong you are.
“When in doubt, focus out.”
This suggestion was once offered as a way to get Thoughts pointed towards something other than Victim.
We’ve all had those moments where we Feel and may literally be helpless and powerless.
The difference between Fact and Feeling is the perspective we Choose.
An effective way to Shift your Attention is to be of Service.
Giving without Intention of getting something in return can be challenging, yet if what you got was sanity, the exchange may not such a bad deal after all.
If you’re Feeling aimless, Serve another and see clarity in your Purpose.
If you want to see what you’re made of, take a moment to make a list of the Unfinished Business in your midst.
Now, take total and complete Responsibility for the Results, or lack thereof.
The natural (or is it?) Reaction (versus Response) would be to defend, justify and maintain Mediocrity and Victim.
Imagine not having that luxury.
The Freedom you can experience when not letting “Story” run you opens up Possibilities to complete, on a consistent basis, what you have started.
If you aspire to be a role-model, it’s now time to pay attention to Finishing What you Start.
The most effective way to overcome Procrastination is to put it off.
Reasons and Excuses will often come up and paralyze us.
Outcomes are all too familiar and keep us in Victim.
If you want pity and compassion from others, don’t do a thing, then cry for help for what you don’t have.
If you want what you want, no one else will do it for you.
Take Action towards what you desire and be freed from bondage of self-doubt and self-loathing.
Nothing is as unattractive as someone who knows better, yet chooses to do nothing with what they know.
The Conditioned definition for Forgiveness is: “I’m letting the other off the hook.”
No wonder we are adamant about withholding it.
The problem is this: Not Forgiving only maintains Resentment!
What’s worse is that Resentment kills!
The definition for Resentment: “Taking the poison and expecting the other to die.”
The new definition for Forgiveness is: “I’m releasing my Resentment while not condoning the behavior of the other.”
Whatever they did will be wrong 100% of the time, yet unless we let go of our Resentment, we are destined for an eternity of Pain as opposed to the Freedom of Forgiveness.
To be Honest is a trait that we all admire.
Yet, it is far too easy to slip into “white lies” or worse for the sake of position.
We have become so accustomed to dishonesty, that often a hollow “sorry” is all it takes to clear things up. Really?
For the folks that overuse apology as a means to avoid Responsibility, here’s some harsh Truth: You will likely not ever be Trusted again; at least not in the way you truly want to be Trusted.
Worse, we fail to be Honest with the most important person in our lives: Ourselves!
Imagine a sentry that walks the perimeter of your Being.
When your Thoughts, Feelings and Emotions come around, the sentry’s job is to protect your Being.
If when asked, the response is a weak, insidious leaning towards Mediocrity, the sentry is Responsible to keep non-supportive Beliefs out.
When the Thoughts, Feelings and Emotions are beneficial, your sentry will let them pass to support you.
The goal is to be able to identify the proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing.
The reason for raising Awareness of your sentry is to allow yourself to live your life on Purpose and accomplish your goals.
I was recently reminded of this way to view Life’s troubles.
We all have our part in things that happen.
Truly, there can be instances where we’ve been completely Victimized, yet the Response versus Reaction is on us.
Many people cling to the experience they had, still being traumatized years later.
In observation, we see those types and ask: “Why can’t they just get over it?” As if it was that easy. That’s what Psychotherapy is for.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard someone complain that their Therapist did nothing for them. Was it really their fault?
Yet, how often do we ignore this cute, simple idea?
For that matter, how often do we completely forget what we’ve learned, abandoning Wisdom and letting Victimhood or some other Conditioning run us?
If you’re not paying attention, you probably won’t notice.
If you did, the Awareness will be painful only as long as you let it continue.
The Choice that we’re all given is to Accept things for how they are, then to do what we can with what we have.
When we get sucked into the Emotional whirlwinds of events, we miss the Opportunity for learning.