Learning from Mistakes

We all know someone in our lives that make mistakes on a consistent basis.  They seem oblivious to what they are doing and worse, apparently have little or no concern for the impact their actions have on others.  The way to a life of freedom from the shame of our errors is to start by forgiving ourselves.

We must also express an authentic desire to accept responsibility for our behavior and look to amend such future actions.
To stay in beat-up or depression about failure is severely unhealthy and foments distraction, avoidance and expands the problem.
The solution begins within.

Making It Right

“I’m sorry…” is commonly a blank check.  Basically, it tells the other person that they can count on it happening again.  People will have expectations about what it takes to clean up the mess.  The strategy I suggest is to first take authentic ownership and responsibility for what we have caused.
It may be wise to consider some reasonable ways to create recovery before asking what can be done to make it right, yet be prepared for it to not be enough.  If you are sincere and have checked your plan with someone of wisdom, it’s no longer about you.

I’m Only Human

We all make mistakes.  Sometimes the price of error affects others in profound ways.  The prices we pay may be significantly greater than expected and the lessons may be life-altering.  Being responsible for our actions is paramount.  When someone wrongs us, the experience of them not being accountable can truly have a negative effect on the relationship.
Before jumping to any conclusions, it may be wise to seek counsel from a trusted advisor before making things right.  Taking ownership is crucial.  Also, without assuming irresponsibility, we get to allow for failure.  Give yourself a break and you won’t feel broken.

The Time Has Come

When it’s time to act, our behavior becomes stimulated and how it manifests is important to observe.  Sometimes fear will reveal itself.  Other times, we will be courageous and confident, taking it on with passion.

It’s a matter of what we have going on internally that will make the experience and outcome worthwhile.  Should we submit to the fear, the consequence will likely be fruitless and defeating.  On the other hand, when we fully commit, we create magnificent results and can build upon that.  The only thing to build on when giving in to fear is a mountain of mediocrity.

You Can’t Have What You Want

Many of us get stuck in the place of wanting, disappointed by outcomes that we don’t want.  Unless we depart this experience, where the desires for our lives are left unfulfilled, we will be unlikely to achieve any of our dreams.
Actually, when we have an intention, the most important thing to do immediately is to get into some form of committed action towards our goal.  Upon doing so, and continuing to be engaged in the generation of the idea, we will be heading to realization rather than being without.

If you want your passions to come true, act accordingly.

It’s an Inside Job

The title for the book I started working on earlier this year is:
Help Wanted-Inquire Within.
What I’ve discovered over many years is that the battle exists inside; having what we want is elusive when we look outside.  Our receptors are closely linked to the messages our Being sends out in each moment.
What we desire externally can only ever be realized when we definitively establish our internal foundation.
Bring to mind someone you admire and respect.  It is the Mastery of their Being that we find most attractive.
The Midas Touch they seem to have can be yours too!

Hesitation Means No

Being decisive is a quality many people desire.  It’s fine to say no.  We might be letting the other person down, but we must make sure that our decisions are in our best interests too.  We have all paid steep prices for saying yes.

Hesitation simply means that we are not fully committed and additional inquiry is necessary.
There will be instances when a quick choice is called for; this is where we learn to trust our intuition.  It takes practice, trusting that what we decide is for the greater good.  A higher context is always a good reference point.

Attitude of Gratitude

A great suggestion is to make a daily gratitude list.  We’ve all heard it before:  “Count your blessings.”  Another angle to look at would be where we are taking our lives for granted.  How often do we miss the value in the simplest of things?
To truly establish a supportive attitude of gratitude, we must first recognize how fortunate we are.  Where we experience lack can be expanded by such a view.  Start with wanting what you have first.  Next, when clarifying your desires, thoroughly assess what you currently possess and embrace your strengths in order to solidify your position.

Mistaken Identity

Being who we are can sometimes conflict with being who we want to be.  I am not a big fan of:  “Fake it until you make it.”  A separation occurs that makes becoming that much more difficult.  Remember that non-verbal, or body language, accounts for over 70% of all communication.
The world will give us the feedback we need to pay attention to.
It is uncovering, recovering and discovering who we are that will reveal what's possible.  Attempting to be someone we are not is plain for most to see.  To succeed in the real world, we must be real.

Here is Everywhere, There is Nowhere

It, whatever it is for you, is right here and now.  You can desire external destinations and want magnificent things to enhance your life.  The vital element is to recognize that everything we hope and wish for starts within; you can never be elsewhere.
Whenever you find yourself not present with others or at a time when you are responsible to be present, know that you are attempting to be in a place that does not exist.  The goal is to truly be where you are now in order to arrive where you want to see yourself in your dreams.