We all know someone in our lives that make mistakes on a consistent basis. They seem oblivious to what they are doing and worse, apparently have little or no concern for the impact their actions have on others. The way to a life of freedom from the shame of our errors is to start by forgiving ourselves.
We must also express an authentic desire to accept responsibility for our behavior and look to amend such future actions.
To stay in beat-up or depression about failure is severely unhealthy and foments distraction, avoidance and expands the problem.
The solution begins within.
When it’s time to act, our behavior becomes stimulated and how it manifests is important to observe. Sometimes fear will reveal itself. Other times, we will be courageous and confident, taking it on with passion.
It’s a matter of what we have going on internally that will make the experience and outcome worthwhile. Should we submit to the fear, the consequence will likely be fruitless and defeating. On the other hand, when we fully commit, we create magnificent results and can build upon that. The only thing to build on when giving in to fear is a mountain of mediocrity.
Being decisive is a quality many people desire. It’s fine to say no. We might be letting the other person down, but we must make sure that our decisions are in our best interests too. We have all paid steep prices for saying yes.
Hesitation simply means that we are not fully committed and additional inquiry is necessary.
There will be instances when a quick choice is called for; this is where we learn to trust our intuition. It takes practice, trusting that what we decide is for the greater good. A higher context is always a good reference point.
Being who we are can sometimes conflict with being who we want to be. I am not a big fan of: “Fake it until you make it.” A separation occurs that makes becoming that much more difficult. Remember that non-verbal, or body language, accounts for over 70% of all communication.
The world will give us the feedback we need to pay attention to.
It is uncovering, recovering and discovering who we are that will reveal what's possible. Attempting to be someone we are not is plain for most to see. To succeed in the real world, we must be real.