As human beings, we spend an inordinate amount of time wanting to change our past. We also want our present/future to be somehow more/less, better or different in relation to the past. The proverbial “lipstick on a pig” applies here. Putting a coat of paint on an old chair only provides an old painted chair.
What we must do is to surrender to simply being engaged in creating what we desire. Everything before us (past) is complete. Everything before us (present/future) is new. Change is about controlling what is out of our control. We can only ever create in reality.