Forgiveness is about Resentment.
The primary reason we won’t forgive is that the value we have built up in resenting another is greater than the value of freeing ourselves from the pain.
We have been conditioned to believe that to forgive means to let the other off the hook.
It really has nothing to do with the other.
When we choose not to forgive, we are only negatively affecting our being.
Whether the other is contrite, regretting or remorseful for their actions is beside the point.
To forgive means that we release our Resentment while not condoning the other’s behavior.