While there may be Facts to support your Perspective, you will have absolutely no Defense for an Emotional form of Reaction that makes things worse.
“Yeah, but…” might be what’s going off in your head, yet Understand that unless you Keep Your Cool and Respond versus React, you are now Responsible for what ensues; regardless of who started it.
Bring to mind someone you know and Respect that handles things with Maturity, Wisdom and Calmness.
If you want to Be like them, you must Practice, in every way possible, Being like them.
It truly doesn’t matter what other people Think, though for your sake, it surely does matter what you Think and, more importantly, whether you React or Respond to Life’s events.