What a cheap, sneaky way to avoid responsibility. It is healthy to take ownership for our actions, yet “I’m sorry” or some form of it simply says: “You can count on me to do it again.”
True, authentic responsibility comes from getting real about facts, admitting our part, then offering to make it right.
In doing so,we are absolved from feelings of shame and have the opportunity to begin anew.
Shame and feelings like it are entirely optional and remain in force when we avoid taking appropriate actions to correct our behavior and most importantly, our state of mind.