What people say about you can, at times, have nothing to do with you at all.
That’s the funny thing about Feedback.
Sometimes Feedback will tell you much more about the other person than it will about you.
Learning how to read and identify such behavior is the tricky part.
Then, once you’ve done an honest assessment, you can clearly see how the other’s Feedback was intended more for their Ego’s Survival, not for your benefit.